A lull in the blogosphere...
There seems to be a reluctance to blog lately...
I sometimes get overwhelmed by the scope of what I want to say. I sit down to blog, and where is that vision?
I wanted to relay something that happened to me of late...without a volcanic overflow of hostility...
Lesson learned, or maybe confirmed: never date women with children...
I know it sounds harsh, but more than one experience has earned me the right to express it, with some vehemence. Details? See "Down with Love."
Actually, this should be said. If you are young, and thinking about getting pregnant, don't! EVERYONE will regret it after the breakup/divorce. Who is everyone? You, your mate, your kids, and ALL the lovers you and your mate might have down the line. Something to really think about huh! I know I wasn't thinking of all of the women I would date after I turned 25 when Ben came into the world...
Maybe someone can learn from someone else's bad experiences. Unfortunately, it eluded me.
I sometimes get overwhelmed by the scope of what I want to say. I sit down to blog, and where is that vision?
I wanted to relay something that happened to me of late...without a volcanic overflow of hostility...
Lesson learned, or maybe confirmed: never date women with children...
I know it sounds harsh, but more than one experience has earned me the right to express it, with some vehemence. Details? See "Down with Love."
Actually, this should be said. If you are young, and thinking about getting pregnant, don't! EVERYONE will regret it after the breakup/divorce. Who is everyone? You, your mate, your kids, and ALL the lovers you and your mate might have down the line. Something to really think about huh! I know I wasn't thinking of all of the women I would date after I turned 25 when Ben came into the world...
Maybe someone can learn from someone else's bad experiences. Unfortunately, it eluded me.
posted by TRS at 3/09/2005 07:40:00 PM
4 Comments:
Perhaps exercising a bit more patience and less hostility would have made the difference. As far as regrets are concerned, the children were and shall not ever be this mother's regret. Ultimately, the confirmation here is that the true measure of a man is brought to light in their handling of the difficulties in life not merely the pleasantries. Unfortunately, narcissism is a common problem in our society.
Perhaps exercising a bit more tact and listening to others before making pointed, negative, opinionated comments would also make a difference. Just because your life has not included the same lessons that TRS's has, does not give you the right to call him names. Unfortunately, rudeness and feelings of superiority are also common problems in our society.
My apologies, obviously I have no right to make my children my first priority in their time of need. TRS, please rest assured that I meant you no harm. I did not like being accused of an ulterior motive. I do not part take in juvenile games and as I have said before, I genuinely wish you the best. This is just not a good time for me at the moment. I apologize for being rude and taking an attitude of superiority. That was not my intention. Perhaps nothing else should be said. May I say that I am sorry to all this may concern? I am sorry.
"A Lull in the Blogosphere" has lead to an incredible spike in activity at my blog, where anonymous entities attack and defend my character.
This isn't the venue for this kind of communication, I made the point in my now-famous "Down with Love." At no point does my post identify anyone by name, I never mention motives of any variety, and more importantly, this post is culled from a series of experienceS with single mothers, not a single experience: each one ending with me being asked to be patient while they attend to their kids.
Attend to the kids! It isn't my fault you all procreated with someone that can't live up to their parental responsibilty. But I won't suffer for it anymore. I stopped apologizing for who I am last century, I refuse to apologize for saying "I have needs too." Only when I make this statement am I accused of narcissism.
"Ultimately, the confirmation here is that the true measure of a man is brought to light in their handling of the difficulties in life not merely the pleasantries."
Where is that lesson taught? Not in my post. And you know nothing of how I deal with adversity.
"My apologies, obviously I have no right to make my children my first priority in their time of need. "
Please take this shit elsewhere, it applies to me not one bit. I know how to balance parenthood with adulthood. And that sarcastic apology destroys the apology that appears sincere.
Anonymous 10:23 PM, thanks for having my back. I don't know how well or if you know me, but I am glad you understand my entry.
Having said all of that, I expect this comment to end this entry for good. Why? Because despite the fact that I am an empty-nester, my time is as valuable as anyone else's. It's time to move on.
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